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Why do I feel this way?

 It is understandable that you would ask

"Why am I feeling this way?"

firstly congratulate yourself that you haven't gone into denial

and that you are asking this question demonstrates that you are working through  your vicarious trauma.

    Whilst your question presupposes you have identified how you feel

your legitimate question may be implying "What am I feeling?"

    not having felt this way before.

Why are you feeling this way?

      perhaps because you are in shock / vicarious trauma

      perhaps because you were betrayed

      you might be asking "Why did you do this to me?"

 it is my opinion that when someone breaches a duty of care of breaches trust

not only is that done to a victim

but to all who trusted the alleged abuser.

    a whole congregation or school has the right to feel betrayed - you were betrayed.( in my opinion)

I hope these pages may assist you in processing vicarious trauma

  Am I feeling vicariourly traumatised?

  •       I wasn't the one traumatised but is has impacted me   it doers  
  •       vicarious trauma may feel quite strange
  •       you might be asking "how will I handle this?
  •       yes  it's a lot to bear
  •       I hope these pages are of some assistance


       It's ok not to rush working your way through processing vicarious trauma

    it's best to take your time

    If or when  overwhelmed ( click for link)

         take a deep breath

         take a step back

         take a break

         I have learnt to take my time  to work it through when I am ready