Why do I feel this way?
It is understandable that you would ask
"Why am I feeling this way?"
firstly congratulate yourself that you haven't gone into denial
and that you are asking this question demonstrates that you are working through your vicarious trauma.
Whilst your question presupposes you have identified how you feel
your legitimate question may be implying "What am I feeling?"
not having felt this way before.
Why are you feeling this way?
perhaps because you are in shock / vicarious trauma
perhaps because you were betrayed
you might be asking "Why did you do this to me?"
it is my opinion that when someone breaches a duty of care of breaches trust
not only is that done to a victim
but to all who trusted the alleged abuser.
a whole congregation or school has the right to feel betrayed - you were betrayed.( in my opinion)
I hope these pages may assist you in processing vicarious trauma
Am I feeling vicariourly traumatised?
- I wasn't the one traumatised but is has impacted me it doers
- vicarious trauma may feel quite strange
- you might be asking "how will I handle this?
- yes it's a lot to bear
- I hope these pages are of some assistance
It's ok not to rush working your way through processing vicarious trauma
it's best to take your time
If or when overwhelmed ( click for link)
take a deep breath
take a step back
take a break
I have learnt to take my time to work it through when I am ready
slowly
carefully
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